How Do You Want to Design Your Relationships?
Published: Tue, 04/26/11
Find Yourself Know Yourself Become Yourself
April 26, 2011
In the mood of Inner Spring, it's time to look at intimacy and relationships. Yes, we struggle with relationships all year long, but working with the seasons of the soul we find Spring brings a natural and spiritual focus to our desire to
Find Love Know Love Become Love
If you are
the designer
of your needs for relationship and intimacy
&
the co-designer
of how they actually manifest in your life,
you might want to learn more about
yourself and intimacy and relationships
you need a fundamental schooling in
being in conscious relationship.
IMAGINING AND CREATING INTIMACY
A Fundamental Schooling in Being in Conscious Relationship.
An Inner Year Intensive
An Inner Year Intensive
Beginning this Sunday.
Imagining and Creating Intimacy teaches the basics aspects for finding the courage and the compassion to know and be known. Intimacy comes from intimus - Latin for inmost. Intimacy emerges from inmost closeness and knowledge. On second thought it is about the presence of a willingness for closeness and knowledge.
How willing and capable are you to get close and know another? There are so many oportunities to lift veils, touch wounds, kiss hearts, look into eyes and see the I.
How close can another get to you? Has anyone ever been interested in your inmost self? Has that interest been safe?
We need a schooling for true or conscious intimacy.
Intimate relationships are a big risk. They ask us to be transparent and vulnerable. They ask us to tell the truth and hear the truth. They ask us to connect with others but from a place of not needing or depending. They ask us to be creative and not conform even to our own fantasies. They ask us to trust and to forgive.
But most of us surround ourselves with a shield of impenetrable defenses. Tell partial-truths and invite partial lies. We connect out of deep neediness, fulfillment of personal fantasy and cultural conformity. We are not confident enough in ourselves to truly trust another and unresolved ancient wounds make it impossible to truly forgive new ones.
Yes, it sounds harsh and makes us sad to compare the ideal with the shadowy reality. Focusing on intimacy for four weeks will not be a magic wand turning our capacities for intimacy into happily ever after but it will open a path and take us a step or two closer to something well-worth our struggles.
The Inner Year Intimacy Intensive gently evokes a new consciousness around relationships. Consciousness enlightens like an inner sun. In the light we can find our way to the true. Intimacy is a difficult and challenging journey. It is much easier to stay on the path in the light of insight, confidence and compassion, than in the darkness of instincts, blind assumptions and selfish expectations.
Most of us find we have little understanding and consequently, little success, at establishing the kind of conscious intimacy that blesses us with real love.
The Inner Year Intimacy Intensive will give you the guidance to develop a deep and practical understanding of how you establish and sustain healthy, confident, creative relationships with other human beings -- relationships imbued with love.
There are so many relationships that benefit from a fundamental schooling intimacy:
Lover with Lover
Friend with Friend
Coworker with Coworker
Friend with Friend
Coworker with Coworker
Parent with Child
Teach with Student
Healer with Client
Teach with Student
Healer with Client
And surprisingly, this course is also a schooling for meaningful solitude. (more on this in the next email.)
Intimacy begins with self knowledge. The Inner Year Intensive on Intimacy will offer a chance to question and examine yourself about intimacy. Intimacy is not about the perfect relationship or romance, nor is it about avoiding the pain of relationships, its about relationship as a path of self-knowledge, self-compassion and inner development. Nor is it about attraction or avoidance. It's about the reality of love and community in the 21st Century.
The course is intimate. It works. You will have a more mature, more enriching, more surprising connection to life, to yourself, and to others.
Here's the syllabus.
Session One: Learn the difference between a strategic relationship and an intimate relationship. Imagining the four elements of intimate relationship and looking at your practical expression and emotional response to each. Understanding the role of the question and multiple points of view. What is the capacity for love and desire -- the biochemical and the spiritual components.
Session Two: The Experience of Empathy. What about Boundaries? The Four Qualities of Relationship and their Eight Shadows. The Roles of Truth, Trust and Keeping Your Word. Recollecting your history of intimacy. The Mystery of Reciprocity.
Session Three: Observing Your Anxieties, Your Patterns and Styles, Your Needs, Expectations and Desires, Intimacy as a Path of Inner Development. Giving Permission to Be Intimate, How to Reveal and How to Respond instead of Defending and Attacking or Avoiding, The Mysteries of Sex.
Session Four: The Imapact of Your Parents' Capacity for Intimacy. The Vital Tensions of Intimacy. The Five Kinds of Intimacy. The Five Developmental Stages of Attachment and their Tasks.
To get the most from an Inner Year program you will need to be willing
to be a little uncomfortable,
to stretch a little beyond your usual limits
to not be afraid of the dark - what is hidden
or the light. - what is revealed
to form and commit to a spiritual practice of self-reflection
Session Two: The Experience of Empathy. What about Boundaries? The Four Qualities of Relationship and their Eight Shadows. The Roles of Truth, Trust and Keeping Your Word. Recollecting your history of intimacy. The Mystery of Reciprocity.
Session Three: Observing Your Anxieties, Your Patterns and Styles, Your Needs, Expectations and Desires, Intimacy as a Path of Inner Development. Giving Permission to Be Intimate, How to Reveal and How to Respond instead of Defending and Attacking or Avoiding, The Mysteries of Sex.
Session Four: The Imapact of Your Parents' Capacity for Intimacy. The Vital Tensions of Intimacy. The Five Kinds of Intimacy. The Five Developmental Stages of Attachment and their Tasks.
To get the most from an Inner Year program you will need to be willing
to be a little uncomfortable,
to stretch a little beyond your usual limits
to not be afraid of the dark - what is hidden
or the light. - what is revealed
to form and commit to a spiritual practice of self-reflection
YOUR INVESTMENT OF ATTENTION AND TIME
Imagining and Creating Intimacy: A Fundamental Schooling in Being in True Relationship is an intensive program. Imagine Self intensive programs need real self-devotion. You deserve your own attention - lots of it!
I suggest you plan on a minimum of 3 hours a week to do the work of the intensive. This includes:
- 90 minutes for the webinar
- 60-90 minutes for personal exploration guided by exercises.
- 30-90 minutes for partnering.
You will need to devote time and attention
- to wonder about intimacy using the questions, insights, and perspectives of the content.
- to write and journal on your questions, your history, your feelings, your intentions coming from the sessions, your wonder meditations.
- to have open and focused conversations with your intensive partner. See description of partnering here.
A 20-minute counseling conversation with Lynn following session 2.
THE PROCESS
Imagining and Creating Intimacy: The Fundamental Schooling in Being in True Relationship is offered in four 90 minute webinars. The webinars are combinations of presentations by Lynn and group interaction.
There are exercises to be done between the sessions. The sessions are recorded and it is strongly suggested that you relisten to the recording before you begin the exercises.
There is a requirement to have at least one conversation with your partner for the course between each session (which is probably the best part of the intensive).
Materials and work pages are sent out each week. You will need a notebook or journal.
THE LOGISTICS
Dates and times of the sessions
Sundays, May 1, 8, 15, 22
1-2:30PM Eastern (10-11:30AM Pacific) (6-7:30 PM GMT)
or
Tuesdays, May 3, 10, 17, 24.
3-4:30PM Eastern (Noon-1:30PM Pacific) (8-9:30PM GMT)
Sessions last 90 minutes.
The course is a webinar. You will join each session via your computer in order to see the slide presentation but the audio can be heard over the web or over the phone (Skype is also a good way to access the sessions). No matter where in the world you live, you can now join the Lynn Jericho Imagine Self Programs via the internet without any phone costs. If you have taken my courses in the past, this is a new system.
Upon registration, you will receive an email that will instruct you in the simple webinar participation process. If you have never participated in a webinar, relax it does not require any technical skills. Although it is best for you to have a computer with internet access, you can also participate by telephone.
Each participant receives a private 20 minute consultation with me to discuss specific issues about their life of intimacy.
COST AND PAYMENT
$147 (95 British pounds) (110 Euros)
discounts, concessions and payment plans are available - please email: lynnjericho@gmail.com
Payment by Credit Card or PayPal through my store.
http://www.store.lynnjericho.com/IMAGINING-CREATING-INTIMACY-IYINT11.htm
If you need to pay me by check there is a small charge for US dollars as I am temporarily living in England you will need to pay for the bank fees. Or you can go to your bank and ask them to cut a check in British pounds. Email me and I will give you the cost.
Discounts and Concessions: If you require a discount in order to participate, please email me. I do not want finances to keep you from participating in a course that is important to your life.
If you need to pay me by check there is a small charge for US dollars as I am temporarily living in England you will need to pay for the bank fees. Or you can go to your bank and ask them to cut a check in British pounds. Email me and I will give you the cost.
Discounts and Concessions: If you require a discount in order to participate, please email me. I do not want finances to keep you from participating in a course that is important to your life.
Additional Donations: The course is priceless. The fee structure set to be affordable to individuals with middle income budgets and financial responsibilities. If your financial resources are greater than middle income, donations above the fee are welcome and can be made via PayPal. Thank you for considering this as it supports my ability to include those who cannot afford to pay the full fee - these folks are usually teachers, artists, healers, students and retirees. Visit here to make your donation. Thank you for your integrity and your generosity.
REGISTRATION
Click here to go to my Store to register for the program.
http://www.store.lynnjericho.com/IMAGINING-CREATING-INTIMACY-IYINT11.htm
If you have any question, email me.
If you have any question, email me.
Upcoming Inner Spring Programs
Learning the Language of the Four Temperaments.
Sundays, May 29 - June 19