More Thoughts on Imagining Intimacy

Published: Sun, 07/14/13

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July 14, 2013
 


Intimacy is a sacred and personal imagination.
How do you imagine intimacy?
 
 
Dear Friends,

Here are some more thoughts on Intimacy and the value you will find in Imagine Intimacy. But I also want to let you know:

I was inspired to include two bonus audios in the course!

BONUSES: (something welcome and often unexpected that accompanies and enhances something that is itself good)
The Four Temperamental Languages of Love
a 60 minute audio on the way temperaments shape the design of intimate relationships.

The Four Senses of Love
a 20 minute audio on the four soul senses of intimate perceptions of another soul.

 
The Tuesday evening course begins THIS TUESDAY, July 16.
The Saturday afternoon course begins on July 20.
 
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MORE THOUGHTS ON IMAGINING INTIMACY
He who looks outside, dreams
He who looks inside, awakes.
Carl Jung


I love being in the imaginal space of an Imagine Self course. It is always a dawning and a deepening of more wisdom and understanding of the whole world of questions living in the great question "Who am I?"

I am in the imaginal space of the Imagine Intimacy course right now.  

This morning I woke to thoughts about my major intimate relationships.  What did I want? What did I find and not find? What did I offer? What did I withhold? What was received? What was rejected? Was I understood? Did I understand?

Did I want the perfect lover for my selfish fantasies or did I want to be part of a couple that evolved and resolved the difficulties of knowing, being known, and collaborating on a meaningful life?

What about my best friends? My mentors? My healers? My children? Angels? What was the presence or absence of intimacy in these relationships?

I can't answer these questions unless I have a strong, developed, understanding of intimacy as an archetype and a clear sense of the way I engage with that archetype.

Like you, I have a crazy, even embarrassing, history with intimacy in my relationships. Every time I give this course, my wonder at intimacy expands, my imagination of intimacy crystalizes into more sparkling facets, I learn a lot more about myself, my intimacy wounds heal a bit more, I become more willing to risk being more intimate and ask for more partnering in the dance of intimacy (and it is a dance, even with my dearest, most intimate girl friends).


So this brings up something I want you to understand: if you register for the Imagine Intimacy course, what you will get is not a guaranteed fix, all your intimacy challenges will not resolve or disappear, but you will have a more conscious, more mature, and hopefully, more fulfilling way of being intimate on all levels of relationship and experience.  And, you will find breakthroughs in wisdom and understanding. You may find yourself experiencing a sudden change in attitude or behavior that will create the change you seek in a particular relationship. Most importantly, you will learn ways for the ongoing, life-long building and fulfilling of your own imagination of intimacy which is a core aspect of finding, knowing, and becoming yourself.

You will have a more eloquent language of intimacy with which to communicate and co-create relatedness with another human soul.

You will find new, sweeter  ways to laugh and have fun.  There is nothing like the laughter that bursts forth out of the privacy of shared intimacy.

You will evolve and  integrate your adolescent, hormone-driven expectations and fantasies about intimacy into the possibility for adult, mature, creative, heart-driven imaginations and connections.  


My favorite and the most challenging part of the course describes the establishing and sustaining a "neutral zone" where every emotion, perspective, memory, desire, dream, doubt, disappointment is welcomed and observed with compassion and interest.  We imagine an inner place of knowing yourself, the other, and the relationship/ The neutral zone nurtures and stimulates the art, the science and the religion of intimacy. Here is where what I call "moral intimacy" can be found.  

Please don't forget, intimacy is a dance for two.  If your relationship partner takes this course with you, you will have shared insights and perspectives to guide you both to moving to the karmic music of your dance. Couples can take the course together at a reduced fee...email me.

There is still room in both the Tuesday evening  or Saturday afternoon sessions of Imagine Intimacy. Be one of the 12 people to engage in the imagining of intimacy. Your relationships will flourish.

Commit to intimacy and register for the course here.
http://imagineself.com/imagine-intimacy/


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