Existentially Real and Personally Authentic
Published: Wed, 07/11/12
July 11, 2012
Inner Mother Inner Father begins tomorrow! Register here.
"Existentially real and personally authentic" I read those words in one of my thought-changing "bibles, "An Introduction to Object Relations" by Lavinia Gomez. Object Relations Theory sees relationship as the source of the sense of self. Given that the primary way of learning in our first seven years is imitation, we learned how to relate to ourselves by imitating how our parents related to us (and to each other) when we were too young to choose or filter what was nurturing and cultivating of a true self.
"...the baby is able to remain in a state of 'unintegration', a relaxed and undefended openness in which his different experiences can join together in an unbroken stream. The mother's holding enables the baby's 'true self', the spontaneous experience of being, to develop coherence and continuity. During periods of unintegration the baby lays down his sense of existing over time and space as one being, existentially real and personally authentic." pg 89
In this quote several states of being are named:
- relaxed
- undefended openness
- unbroken stream
- true self
- coherence
- continuity
- one being
- existentially real
- personally authentic
We all have ebbs and flows of these states and these states occur in our relationship to ourselves, to others, to the world, to our work. When we are in any one of them, we often don't notice - we just feel "right." But when we are out of touch with them, we can feel deeply troubled. These troubled feelings can be acute or chronic and put us in a state of disintegration. In these moments, brief or extended, we need an inner mother and an inner father to reparent our sense of self, our state of being.
INNER MOTHER INNER FATHER does not examine the past or the parenting you did or did not receive from your parents. Rather it focuses on the elements and development of meaningful and effective adult self-parenting.
The course is primarily a self-study as it relies on 8 weekly pre-recorded teaching presentations and e-workbooks delivered to your inbox. Even the three live Q&A sessions are recorded for you. The partnering option is a choice, so if you want to do this program completely on your own, when and where you want, you can do that. Summer vacations and other plans won't get in the way as the course will wait for you.
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If you read those nine states I listed above and felt a longing, sign up for INNER MOTHER INNER FATHER. You will be more you this autumn! Give yourself the self-love that comes with self-parenting.
" Lynn Jericho
read the syllabus to me for the Inner Mother Inner Father workshop. I
was stunned by the comprehensive content that is going to be explored.
By simply hearing what goes into good inner parenting, I had many
insights, epiphanies, and subsequent emotional releases within hours! I
can barely imagine how my understanding and embodiment of my own inner
parents will expand after this workshop. I wouldn't miss it. At 61,
I'm ready to be the parents for myself that I need and to be the adult
the world needs me to be."
Aine Morgann
INNER MOTHER INNER FATHER is an Imagine Self course on feeling safe, secure and stable in your soul. You will learn how to de-dramatize your dramatic moments, choose the direction for your future, declare your truth, make creative, harmonious choices, establish calm fruitful organizing principals for living and loving, regulate your emotions, integrate your past, celebrate yourself and so many other essential feelings of selfhood. Take this course, it will guide you to so much of what you have always been seeking.
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