Our karma and our destiny shaped the parenting we received
that left us with unmet needs. This often causes trauma, grief, rage, and chronic challenges in our sense of self. But parenting that fails to meet our needs is often the parenting that evolves into the gift of motivating self-knowledge and self-imagining. Somehow we move beyond the self as a happily-ever-after fantasy to a self as evolving individuality.
There is no perfect parenting in the sense of the ideal. When we contemplate the parenting we received that left our needs unmet from a place of equanimity, we come to see how each unmet need provided the possibility of wisdom that can only emerge through suffering our unmet needs.
Wisdom reveals the self-compassionate deeds of self-parenting and suggests the awakening of an inner mother and inner father.
The two O Human Soul, Know Thyself webinars on Self-Parenting offer deep dives into the archetypal parenting gestures. Four core needs and the four parenting gestures that live in the development of our inner and outer realities connect to the four bodies: physical, etheric, astral, and spirit . The maternal gestures meet the needs found in the four incarnation senses of touch, well-being, movement, and
balance The four paternal gestures connect to the four world senses of smell, taste, vision, and warmth.
I have been researching the karma of parenting for over 10 years and living with the karma of my childhood and the karma of parenting my own children which has made my research
painfully intimate and also, exquisitely awakening, healing, and empowering.
